The Marketing Ploy: Love

Jay-Z and Beyonce were spotted having dinner at Nello's over the weekend while being hounded by the paps. Devouring what seemed to be a delicious dinner ( Seeming how B was basically swallowing and not chewing), B whispered in Jay's ear while he sipped on his wine. Looking at the photos from that evening I asked myself a question that seems to puzzle me everytime, "Why aren't relationships lasting now a days?" During her recent magazing interview B had quite an insight on how to make a relationship truly last:

"I think its natural for people to sacrifice themselves in a relationship, but when you do that too much, you lose yourself. Before you know it, you don’t even know what you like anymore. You have to remember that you can depend on yourself, and go with your instincts. You don’t have to lose everything just to please the other person because its just as important that your happy. But sometimes we get so into pleasing the person we don’t think, "are we really happy?"

B has proved my point. This is why I believe it’s extremely important as a person to take time being single and finding out who you are as an individual and work on your own goals before getting involved wrapped up into someone elses. I’ve seen too many of my friends put so much emphasis and effort into making a relationship work until they lose sight of their dreams and lose everything in the process (goals, career, ambitions, friends etc) That is too much to risk for a relationship not to work and that is why I'm working on me first before I'm able to embrace another person into my life. Why try to welcome someone into your life if you don't have your sh*t together? Add on to my success and love, don't be a burden. I know people think its cute when both partners go through the struggle together but be realistic! You can avoid that struggle by just getting your life together before-hand. Love is a beautiful thing but please dont let your life revolve around it.

When I say "Love is a marketing ploy", I mean that in the most sincere way possible. When we look at 'love' back in the early 50s for example, people got married because they had to. It was a tradition to get married at a young age, have children, and comsume your life in domestic activities. If there wasn't any love in the relationship, a partner cheated, or if love was leaving the equation, people sucked it up and pushed on. Is that what love is? Tolerating and suffering? Now a days when we fall in love, we either get bored or one of the partners cheat. I look at love like diamonds. Da beers has made such a great amount of cash over marketing these diamond with slogans like "A diamond is forever" along with these heart-felt commercials. Da beers also claimed that the engagement ring is put on the ring finger because it has a vein that is connected to the heart. Now with technology and advanced science, we know better. Hollywood has projected this fairytale 'love' image to suck in viewers and drain your pockets. Apparently we are still under their spell. We mourn and wander this planet looking for our soulmate in depression while we can be living out lives. Love is controlling our life style and we don't care to change our pathetic pattern. Many readers may claim opinions that I'm some bitter and lonely person who tries to down play those who are in love. This is not the truth. I have plenty of options for being 'in-love' but I love me more. I'm able to see through Cupid's bow and arrow tactics. I know that before I even consider a relationship I must be accomplished in every aspect my heart desires. For many of those who know and believe the truth, more power to you! And for those who are embarking into the journey of love, good luck!

"People are in love with the idea of love, not the person." - Beau Averee

But You're Nothing But Pollen

Staring from down in the soil, I saw huge bulbs ready to blossom
Some already mature enough to spread their petals across the lengthy fields
The sight led to a quick gust of golden dust dancing in the wind
It was you
I know it was
How can you come from something so beautiful?
As the roses,daises, and violets get their beauty sleep for tomorrow
You produce
When the sunflowers stretch their arms in the morning
You gently glide off of them and start your madness
From one field to the next you plot your moves
I'm still stuck on: "how can you come from something so beautiful?"
You're just so full of the opposite force and the way you rain dance makes me shiver
Whispering to the wondrous elk trees you start building your army
With your shiest walk and your convincing glare..
You manage to set the tone for war
Even though all of the flower garden wants to live in harmony, you still declare war
This metallic aura that is dust shall be a mere illusion by dusk
I hope
But wait.. hope has let me down before, so I have nothing
You will win this battle but we all know who wins the war
As you prance around with your artificial laughter
You mesmerize those who don't know any better
I know better so that's why I'm immune to the metronome
As you continue your daily routine
You spot your favorite place to plant your chaos
Our relationship died right where it started
At the cemetery

Give It Up For The Tourists!

Blind Melon- No Rain

All I can say is that my life is pretty plain

I like watchin' the puddles gather rain

And all I can do is just pour some tea for two

and speak my point of view

But it's not sane, It's not sane

I just want some one to say to me

I'll always be there when you wake

Ya know I'd like to keep my cheeks dry today

So stay with me and I'll have it made

And I don't understand why I sleep all day

And I start to complain that there's no rain

And all I can do is read a book to stay awake

And it rips my life away, but it's a great escape

escape......escape......escape......

All I can say is that my life is pretty plain

ya don't like my point of view

ya think I'm insane

Its not sane......it's not sane

"Got A Chick Named Superhead, She Give The Super Head"

Author Karrine 'Superhead' Steffans promoted her latest book,"The Vixen Manual", on the CW's news show. Steffans definitely gets a lot of slack for her past and what she has done to get where she is. These news reporters were completely wrong for trying to belittle her on national television, I'm glad she was able to strike back!

I honestly don't feel any disgust towards what she has done. Steffans has simply used what she has to get what she wanted and definitely paid a price for it-she will forever be Superhead. I did read her first book and really felt why she did the things she did. She was raped, abused, abandoned, hated, and was left with nothing. Here she is a beautiful and sexy girl who enjoys sex and the story begins. Let me just say one thing though, there are plenty of people out there who just have casual sex and get nothing out of it! She got paid and I mean PAID. Many would say she was just basically a hooker but I don't see it that way. She said "hey, I love sex so why not benefit from it besides getting a nut?"

At the end of the day she didn't do it for the money, she did it to find love. Many of you can relate on doing a lot of crazy things to find love. We sometimes go through hell and back in life just trying to find that special someone. We put up and settle for the unimaginable. Love is a bitch but yet we need it like the air we breathe.

I once said my first tattoo was going to be "Love Conquers All". I changed my mind.
I realized that it's not love that conquers, it's life that prevails. Life is the foundation to everything not love. Some of you may have different opinions but how can you deny the obvious truth? The beauty that life brings and the things that we do love carry life within them. Life and love are right next to each other, they both have their ups and downs, pains and pleasures, and pros and cons. I've seen cases where love failed and people even tried to commit suicide over a heartbreak but at the end of the day, when everything is over, people realize that they are still breathing. People also realize that after all they are still alive and sometimes we need different genres to confirm that we indeed are still living. I believe that love comes in when we need to learn lessons, to help us out for a certain point in our life, to let us know that there are things pure as white doves yet filthy and tainted like the devil's hands. There is less and less love everyday we live. Love is fading while life is forever. Something shall always be living. Without life we wouldn't have love and sometimes we get the definitions confused but you already know what prevails at the end. At some point in our lives we have a notion that the relationship we are in will last forver because it works so well, I don't mean to be a downer but nothing lasts forever but time and life. People, stop trying to find love! It will eventually come to you!Even worst stop trying to deny to yourself that what you have is true love. Live life and enjoy everything you've always wanted to do rather than worrying about what you keep doing wrong and why!
I've always said "If we keep wondering why then we will never know how".


I want to hear from my readers:

Does love conquer all or does life conquer all?
What is your position on what I've stated?
What experiences can you relate to what I've said?

The Dragon's Last Puff

My dearest friend, Jayne , has asked me to blog about Solange Knowles' new do...or don't. I honestly would've never guessed that Solange would do such thing! I know my readers are asking "what does Beau think?!". Well, I feel like to each his/her own. I always admired how she kept up with her "dragon, as she would refer to her hair, but I wasn't totally shocked at this "stunt". I feel like most gossip sites will say how it's a cry for attention or that she is following the whole Amber Rose and Cassie movement. I don't believe she did it for either reasons. As Solange stated,

"dont. need. your. attention. or. your. co-sign. i am #3. trending topic. before. IRAN. &. some of you cant even locate it on a map. its sad.dont. want. a. edge. up. or a perm. because. im not trying. to make this "a style" or a statement.i. just. wanted. to. be. free. from. the. bondage. that. black. women sometimes. put. on. themselves. with. hair.this. phase. of. my. life. i. want to spend . the time. the energy. and the money. on something else. not in the hair salon.im. not. mad. at . all of you. that have made your opinions known. and have sent negative. energy. my way. i expected this of you.

VIA Twitter

I must say, I completely agree with her. Solange stated earlier that she wants to focus on her work more than being obsessed with her "dragon". Hair defines a lot of people. It gives your audience an instant view of your personality, I guess. Curly hair has always been my thing and people always assumed that I was outgoing, wild, and mysterious...They were right. Although I co-sign Solange's perspective, she still looks like an old mom. First of all, she needs a shape-up A.S.A.P! She should also color her hair a dark pink, her complexion would automitcally accept the appreciation! That's just my future planning for it. Solange has always been able to be an individual from this wrecked industry. If she wants to shave off all her glorious hair, then let her! She clearly doesn't want to make a "statement" with her ceasar.

Fresh Flow: Goldfrapp- "Happiness"

I absolutely love this song and video! This was just on repeat while I was remodeling my room and it created a whimsical and 50's housewife energy. Another thing, how did he jump for that long? Those are some great jumping skills. Happiness is Goldfrapp's second single from their amazing LP Seventh Tree. Go out and purchase this album and embark on the journey I have encountered through Happiness.

J.Z.Z.

The wind has blown

The seasons have gotten stronger and changed quicker

There is no denying that passion still lingers through the cracks of broken trust

A once best friend has transformed into a tourist in Eutopia

Though my tongue I shall bite to prevent breaking your made-up image

I will never forgive the reasons you chose to turn your nose up

Love changed you but I made you

I handed you swag and a pair of pumps in a duffle bag

I granted you abstract while you rocked Baby Phat

The brightest star has faded within you

You no longer hold the same place in my heart

Replaced you shall not be but let go you will be

I keep the positive energy within me

I'm glad that I was able to change someone's life for a greater purpose than intended

Love, oh love

How you swept the closest being right from under my nose

I pray that there will never be a stormy night when I recieve a phone call from a familiar number asking for guidance

Voicemail has plenty of options for you

From my hands I let you go into the galaxy

My blessing I give

Just hoping you don't end up needing GPS

The Rising Crystals' love has diminished into dust

Blowing in gravity with new seeds to plant

Keep praying

I love you

Why Are You So Obsessed With Me?

Can't Read Her Pokerface?

Lady GaGa's press conference in Malta took a turn when the soon to be legend walked on the scene with a contemporary art gracing her face. I'm still on the thought of how she stepped on the scene and took over! She has became the third recording artist in history to have three #1 singles back to back! I yearned for art and my wish was granted. Congratulations GaGa!

The Boss Covers "Oyster"

Oyster celebrates Kelis' trendsetting abilities by praising her stolen accomplishments, by stolen I mean all of these "artist' that have jacked everything from her style to her sound.
She looks extremely nice in these shot but of course they are photo shopped because she is definitely due this week! Even though her divorce battle is getting uglier and uglier, she manages to keep her cool and keep pushing. So much that she is currently int he studio recording new material! I'm excited! Kelis has never failed to deliver for me. Lets hope this new musical revolution doesn't affect her new material so much. Keep it bossy, Kelis!

Sweet Dream

Beyoncé MTV Music

Beyonce's video for Sweet Dream has been released and I'm kind of feeling it. I appreciate the art and fashion in this video! BUT I believe more could've have been done with this video. More dreamy/nightmare-ish effects and slight better concept. The beginning, I love! The ending is ok. Beyonce` has always been able to have memorable dance moves that will be ran through the dance floor on a saturday night under the strobe lights. originality is still questionable but performance is undeniable.